For a long time my Goodbye work seemed at odds with my role as a gratitude ambassador. I used to try and keep the two separate. But the more I explored change, loss and death the deeper I moved into gratitude...... the two are now interwoven.
The Goodbye book took me 5 years to complete because partway through the process my own life fell spectacularly apart. My marriage ended, and the business I had poured my heart and soul into stayed with my ex. One of the biggest losses I had to adjust to was sharing custody of my 3 children.
The book became more personal as I wove more of myself into it. It taught me to open, exhale and ultimately helped me to heal. Once published it seemed to take on a life of its own. It led me to meet many people breathing life into death and loss: Dr. Lois Tonkin who encouraged me to do a Certificate in Grief Support, Zenith Virago who danced me through DeathWalker Training and Dr. Lorraine Hedtke who introduced me to Narrative Therapy.
I’m part of a growing network of people throughout NZ who are re-imagining how we do death. We are mixing in some of the old ways with some of the new and sharing practical knowledge and skills to allow us to make preferred and informed choices during the various stages of the death and dying process.