Work With Me
There are lots of ways to connect, work with me, or collaborate
Workshops
Conference
Coaching
Art Exhibition
Speaking
Death Centre
Workshops
I've worked with people of all ages and backgrounds in both small and large groups over the last 10 years; facilitating workshops to increase death acceptance, encourage gratitude, and inspire creative problem-solving. My general tone is upbeat.
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Make Your Own Memory Box
This workshop starts with a story about my challenging relationship with my father and what I did that changed everything. You will come away with the beginnings of your own memory box for someone special in your life.
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Date With Death
This conversational workshop can get even the most reluctant death-phobe talking about things that are important to them, such as their legacy, their bucket list, even their ideal funeral. Every Date with Death I've hosted has been a rich experience full of deep sharing, wonder, wistfulness and laughter,
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Silent Conversations
Initiate deeper conversations with your children, your parents or your partner - without having to talk more. Learn the key tips and tricks to make this habit super-sticky for the whole family.
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Using Gratitude to Create More Joy
Most of us are so busy living our day to day lives that we miss the chance to perform a grand gesture. This workshop will get you thinking outside your comfort zone with some creative gratitude projects you can tailor to suit the people in your world.
It was fun and definitely had me seeing some things in my current life from different perspectives.
An expansive glimpse of clarity around what I want Vs. don't want in my life.
Coaching
Would you like to sink into an authentic conversation about endings in a safe and neutral space? With a mix of deep listening and a touch of the muse, I offer support for people navigating change in their lives - particularly in the context of death.
People talk to me about
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Death, loss and grief
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Fear of dying
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Creating balance
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Finding joy
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Creative legacies
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Each session may include:
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Talk therapy
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Deep listening
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Tiny Tools - designed to enrich a busy life in less than a minute a day; creating more depth, connection and intimacy.
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Soul Prescription - a personalised prescription of further things to support you afterwards
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Laughter
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Don't wait. Your 15 minute discovery call is free. Email me to request your call and set up a time.
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Each session is 50 minutes via Zoom
Cost: $90
In-person meetings are by arrangement
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As a self-publisher launching my first book, Melanie's guidance, drawn from her successful first-hand experience, was invaluable. Her combination of savvy business and marketing skills, mission focus, artistic vision, and, most importantly, deep authenticity make her the perfect go-to person to give your creative project wings. Within the first five minutes of our conversation she solved an organizational problem with which I had been grappling for months. A huge load has been lifted from my shoulders!
I can't recommend her highly enough!
—Martha Brettschneider
Speaking & Facilitating
Teaching through stories, provoking with ideas and sharing tools to enable real change is how I love to connect with my audience - big or small.
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From MC'ing the Death Matters conferences, to facilitating Death Cafē conversations in the community; I love the challenge of connecting in a way that inspires a shift in thinking, or provokes a call to action.
I've also led conservations for students at the Otago Medical School, University of Canterbury, St Margaret's College, Marian College, and recently at the Seeds Impact Conference.
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Talking freely about death enables us to talk about our lives, what matters within it, and what we may want to do or change for the future. Big thanks to you Melanie, for your vision, creativity and passion.
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— Feedback from 2nd Death Matters
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My favourite topics are:
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Death 101; four of the basics
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Don't Wait, Thanks, Goodbye
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Finding Joy
Please get in touch to talk about your event and what we might create together.
'Your creative drive and sense of fun certainly inspired the students. This was evident during the lesson as I observed the girls become more open and free in their thinking and creating.
From this one lesson they grew and from initially being nervous to actual having a go, and the look on their faces was one of pure joy.
The more reserved students slowly took on the challenges and the seed of trying new things was born within them.
I look forward to working with you again'
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— Jane Dickie, Marian College
Death Matters Conference
Death Matters is an uplifting and memorable experience. Perhaps the most important and meaningful conference you will ever attend.
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—Dr Nicole Lindsay, NDE researcher,
School of Psychology, Massey University
A huge and heartfelt THANKYOU to all who have been involved in the three Death Matters conferences; the presenters with their awesome depth of knowledge and willingness to share it with us, the workshop facilitators for getting us hands on and making the concepts useable, the volunteers who anchored the energy and made the events flow smoothly, and of course the attendees with their courage and curiosity for more openness, advocacy and empowerment on all matters death-related.
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These conferences helped us:
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Make conversations about death normal for everyone
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Connect those of us working in death-related fields
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Encourage curiosity and provoke new thinking
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Dive deep into old taboos e.g. suicide, euthanasia, life after death
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Get inspired, share resources, and become more creative
That said, I feel the conferences have served their purpose for now, and it’s time for something new. Building on their momentum, I am designing tools for education and engagement that reach more deeply into the community. I want to help people move beyond fear and limitation and savour the preciousness of life. These will be in the form of workshops, speaker events and training opportunities and will run throughout the year.​
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The Fare-Well Trust cant thank you enough for doing what you do in pulling people together and helping to take the fear out of dying.
Your Death Matters conference influenced so many and we are still receiving emails....even 12 months later
Art Exhibition
For each exhibition ten New Zealand artists are invited to explore their own relationship with death and loss by producing a short series of work in their preferred medium. I like to have a mix of up-and-coming artists as well as more-established people, working in a wide variety of mediums.
We also include performance art, and have an artist-in-residence for the duration of the exhibition.
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Our third Art Exhibition 'Closer to Death' is in the works, but with no fixed date as yet.
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You are welcome to make a submission of interest​.​
Vision For The Life+Death Centre
Death helps us discover what matters most.
- Frank Ostaseski
The Life + Death Centre is a unique hub offering diverse workshops, educational programs, and therapeutic sessions to demystify death and inspire fearless living.
With dedicated areas for reflection, collaboration, and artistic expression, the centre will be a place where people can explore and learn, plan and play.
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Imagine a team of skilled people in a range of roles; caregivers, healers, art therapists, death doulas, grief therapists, grief yoga teachers, funeral consultants, creative legacy guides, and aging-parent companions, offering education, support, guidance, and most of all empowering us to do death better.
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Thank you for all that you are offering us in terms of support, networking, education and inspiration so we can better help others. Thanks to your immense energy, compassion and commitment this is going to be amazing